Oct 17, 2019
ENCORE EPISODE - originally published April 3, 2019
Today we’re going to really focus in on the grief piece of the widowed parenting puzzle. It can be really hard for widowed parents to know how to help their children with their grief, because most of us don’t have much experience, nor any education, in this. And so, I’m really glad to share with you today my discussion with Buffy Peters and Sasha Mudlaff, from Hamilton’s Academy of Grief and Loss in Des Moines, Iowa. Hamilton’s is Iowa’s largest funeral home, and 20 years ago they decided to start providing grief and loss support to their clients and to the broader community as well. And if you’re not in Iowa, not to worry – they have fantastic -- and free -- resources available on their web site. I’ll link to them in the show notes.
I learned so much from talking with Buffy and Sasha. Some topics we covered include:
- Handling questions from kids, including when you don’t know the answer;
- The importance of telling kids the truth about tough situations;
- Language to avoid when talking with kids about death;
- Secondary losses experienced by kids who have lost a parent;
- Undue burdens that may unintentionally be placed on kids;
- Misconceptions that adults may have about children’s grief
- Why it’s important for kids to see the adults around them grieve, and modeling healthy grieving;
- How children’s grief differs from adult grief; and
- Why it’s important for adults to validate kids’ feelings of grief.
I hope you enjoy my discussion with Sasha Mudlaff and Buffy Peters.