Jan 30, 2019
"Children can be resilient. But we know there are factors that have to do with building resiliency in them. They are not automatically any more resilient than we are, or than anybody is. If anything, they’re very vulnerable to a lot of things. Losing a parent in childhood is one of the most adverse events that...
Jan 23, 2019
“It really is about trusting yourself. Trusting your kids. Absolutely get professional help. Get community around you. Whittle down your life to the most essential components if you can. Insulate yourself in a way that prioritizes your time, prioritizes your healing. I think those are the things that I’ve taken...
Jan 16, 2019
“You’re not alone. There are many, many people out there going through the same thing as you. You do not have to be perfect. You were not perfect before your husband or wife or partner died, and you don’t need to be perfect now. Give yourself some leeway. Be self-forgiving, and be patient with yourself. You’re...
Jan 9, 2019
“Love yourself as fiercely as you can. And let it be what it is. And yes, life will be different, but that doesn’t mean it has to be limited. And just let it unfold. And love yourself through it. No rights, no wrongs, no judgement, no should be farther along than you are, no I’m not parenting well enough, or I...
Jan 2, 2019
“You really need to be the parent in their lives still. Now you have to be both parents really. So you have to put in that much extra work. Even though [you’re] grieving, and with the whole world maybe crashing down, you still need to provide that structure and be that parent for that kid, because otherwise it’s...